Monday, May 7, 2012

How to bring the spark back into relationships

By Dan Martinez


Are you feeling that your relationship has lost passion? Or you don't feel desire to spend more time your partner? As time passes, relationships should get stronger and much more passionate. However, sometimes life gets so busy that relationships get secondary treatment in comparison to other things like career or kids. Every relationship needs constant attention and care in order to keep it alive otherwise partners drift apart. To reignite the sparks in the relationship, following ideas are worth giving a try:

1. Surprises: Nothing brings the partner closer than a sweet surprise thrown by you. Be it a gadget that the partner continues to be yearning for for a vacation trip which has been long pending, your partner shall be swept with your gesture of making the partner feel special. Expressing your caring thoughts through gifts or surprises deepens the connection with your partner.

2. Romantic Night: A candle light dinner at least in a fortnight or a special meal cooked in your own home won't only fill the empty tummy but also win the heart of your partner. Discover what is favorite cuisine of your partner and create the evening around that. Also, make sure the mood is set right by playing partner's favorite music and having fragrant candles and dimmed lights. You may want to pre-plan a dance night by going out in one of your partner's favorite club. Having such recurrent nights always keep the passion alive.

3. Quality Time: This does not make reference to watching television together or doing household chores together but time when your mind is not busy with some other task. As an example, have a hike together or spend some time in bed over a weekend morning. You'll discover numerous unknown things about your companion by talking many often. Also, touch your companion often and get the partner to touch you in return as often as possible. Bodily contact increases oxytocin, a harmone, recognized for reducing stress and improving feeling of trust.

4. Special Occasions: Whether it is an anniversary of the first date/marriage or your partner's birthday or maybe a lover's day like Valentine's Day, always make an effort to make those moments memorable. For example, arriving at the door having a dozen roses, a box of chocolates with an anniversary card with hand written notes will impress your partner using your caring nature. One main thing to remember is to plan out those occasions ahead of time to ensure that efforts bring about class and style. These events bring joy alive and invigorate the relationship.

5. Communication: An open communication will always bring out any hidden anger or resentment which may have resulted from a disagreement or possibly a conflict. Always let the partner understand what has upset you over any issue so the partner knows what to consider later on when the same problem is faced again. Never hide any resentment consequently feelings will accumulate as time passes and definately will distance you from your partner. It doesn't mean that you can create a mountain out of a molehill but communicate when needed and in right words. Open discussion is healthier for both sides because it brings the partners on the same page on any topic or issue.
For just about any relationship to flourish and become a long lasting one, it requires a serious amounts of commitment from both partners. Above ideas really can improve chances for an excitement filled relationship if followed with sincerity and conviction.




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